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I can think of some examples in my own life where I felt like I had to 'larp' (pretend) in order to fit into the community I was part of. Luckily, I've stopped

I can think of some examples in my own life where I felt like I had to 'larp' (pretend) in order to fit into the community I was part of. Luckily, I've stopped giving a fuck as I've grown older.

leto_ii 6y ago
Realizing that I don't have to give a fuck has definitely felt like an important step towards actual emotional/intellectual maturity. It has happened to me relatively recently, so I'm still new to the feeling :D
- k__ 6y ago
  Don't know if age or success is the reason people stop giving a fuck. Some people are full of shit, but hide it until they are more successful, which often correlates with age, and then stop to care and show the world their real face.
  - leto_ii 6y ago
    I'm not particularly old or successful. I also think we might have different ideas of what "not giving a fuck" means. To me it's about being true and at ease with myself, even when I'm uncool or weird. It certainly doesn't mean being an asshole, rude etc.
dreamcompiler 6y ago
If I could send messages back to my 12yo self it would be "quit pretending to give a damn about football." Football was a big deal where I grew up and I spent a lot of time keeping up with it to "fit in." Fortunately I figured out it didn't matter by the time I got to college (which happened to be a major football university). To this day when I tell people I went to UT Austin their first response is usually "Longhorns are doing great this year aren't they?" "I have no idea" I respond. "But they have very good EE and CS departments."
- QuesnayJr 6y ago
  I have this problem with European and World Cup soccer. I just follow them enough to be able to briefly feign interest.
- alexslobodnik 6y ago
  I'd be careful with that advice. Sports are great conversation starters. People want to share what they are passionate about. I may not want to spend hours talking to them about it, but a few minutes that's fine. Who knows maybe you will learn something useful.
  - gibspaulding 6y ago
    There's a great episode of The IT Crowd about this (and how it backfires horribly) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NKHyqjHqQLU https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NKHyqjHqQLU
  - geocrasher 6y ago
    -1 Strongly Disagree. Sort of :p When somebody tries to talk sports to me, I feign stupidity but in a silly way. For example if somebody tries to talk Football (American) I say "Oh, that's that thing where sweaty guys chase each other around and people talk about it, right?" and they laugh, realize I have zero interest, and we move on to a more relevant subject. It's all in how you go about it.
    - daseiner1 6y ago
      that’s a patronizing statement that i don’t think certain kinds of people would love
      - geocrasher 6y ago
        If it's said in a kindhearted way with a twinkle in your eye, people usually get it. On the other hand, I stopped trying to please everyone years ago.
  - 6y ago

I can think of some examples in my own life where I felt like I had to 'larp' (pretend) in order to fit into the community I was part of. Luckily, I've stopped giving a fuck as I've grown older.

leto_ii 6y ago

Realizing that I don't have to give a fuck has definitely felt like an important step towards actual emotional/intellectual maturity. It has happened to me relatively recently, so I'm still new to the feeling :D

k__ 6y ago
Don't know if age or success is the reason people stop giving a fuck. Some people are full of shit, but hide it until they are more successful, which often correlates with age, and then stop to care and show the world their real face.
- leto_ii 6y ago
  I'm not particularly old or successful. I also think we might have different ideas of what "not giving a fuck" means. To me it's about being true and at ease with myself, even when I'm uncool or weird. It certainly doesn't mean being an asshole, rude etc.

dreamcompiler 6y ago

If I could send messages back to my 12yo self it would be "quit pretending to give a damn about football." Football was a big deal where I grew up and I spent a lot of time keeping up with it to "fit in." Fortunately I figured out it didn't matter by the time I got to college (which happened to be a major football university). To this day when I tell people I went to UT Austin their first response is usually "Longhorns are doing great this year aren't they?" "I have no idea" I respond. "But they have very good EE and CS departments."

QuesnayJr 6y ago
I have this problem with European and World Cup soccer. I just follow them enough to be able to briefly feign interest.
alexslobodnik 6y ago
I'd be careful with that advice. Sports are great conversation starters. People want to share what they are passionate about. I may not want to spend hours talking to them about it, but a few minutes that's fine. Who knows maybe you will learn something useful.
- gibspaulding 6y ago
  There's a great episode of The IT Crowd about this (and how it backfires horribly) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NKHyqjHqQLU https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NKHyqjHqQLU
- geocrasher 6y ago
  -1 Strongly Disagree. Sort of :p When somebody tries to talk sports to me, I feign stupidity but in a silly way. For example if somebody tries to talk Football (American) I say "Oh, that's that thing where sweaty guys chase each other around and people talk about it, right?" and they laugh, realize I have zero interest, and we move on to a more relevant subject. It's all in how you go about it.
  - daseiner1 6y ago
    that’s a patronizing statement that i don’t think certain kinds of people would love
    - geocrasher 6y ago
      If it's said in a kindhearted way with a twinkle in your eye, people usually get it. On the other hand, I stopped trying to please everyone years ago.
- 6y ago