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So having a personal preference for the people you hook up with is now considered racist? This is the problem. It has nothing to do with equal rights any long

So having a personal preference for the people you hook up with is now considered racist? This is the problem. It has nothing to do with equal rights any longer. It's about forcing your beliefs onto me and then attempting to call me a racist when I disagree.

wmeredith 6y ago
What a bizarre decision. I have very little control over what arises me/what doesn’t; it’s part of my lizard brain. I would think the Grindr team would understand that more than most.
curryst 6y ago
I don't think it's an accusation of overt racism, but rather a side effect of systemic racism creating a subconscious bias. There is an open question of why you have the personal preferences you do, and why a personal preference is so pervasive. There was a study (I lost the link, I can try to find it if you want it) that asked participants whether they would date someone from each ethnic group other than their own. Across all the groups, white people were the most accepted, followed by Hispanic, then Asian, and finally African American. There are plenty of similar studies I can pull up (or you can find if you'd prefer). The primary theories I've seen to explain it aren't overt racism. The first is the abysmal state of racial integration in the US. The theory is that we are attracted to what we are familiar with, and the lack of integration causes a bias against other races. The second is portrayal in media causing subconscious biases. Race is also the most picked preference for romantic partners, above religion and political preference. Can we meet in the middle and at least say there's something going on here besides a weirdly societal personal preference?
throwlaplace 6y ago
i have never understood the argument that "preferences in partners" isn't racist but preferences in ... employees, customers, contractors, movie stars, politicians, etc is. note: the answer here is not that the latter choices aren't racist.
mc32 6y ago
Not even that. It’s more superficial and insincere. They’re virtue signaling—not to black people, but to people who think it’s righteous to do such thing.
olliej 6y ago
I think the point they’re making is that if you’re filtering an entire group based on something that they cannot (and should not have to) change that’s kind of stupid. Having a preference is not the same as would never date/bone this race, regardless of any other facts about them. Think of it this way, now you’re open to a whole new world of rejection! :)
- sacks2k 6y ago
  "Having a preference is not the same as would never date/bone this race, regardless of any other facts about them." It might be. I know many African Americans that will not date someone that is not African american. It's a personal preference. Sure, you can just pick out the people you don't like, but I see this as the same as a dating company only have hetero couples.

wmeredith 6y ago

What a bizarre decision. I have very little control over what arises me/what doesn’t; it’s part of my lizard brain. I would think the Grindr team would understand that more than most.

curryst 6y ago

I don't think it's an accusation of overt racism, but rather a side effect of systemic racism creating a subconscious bias. There is an open question of why you have the personal preferences you do, and why a personal preference is so pervasive. There was a study (I lost the link, I can try to find it if you want it) that asked participants whether they would date someone from each ethnic group other than their own. Across all the groups, white people were the most accepted, followed by Hispanic, then Asian, and finally African American. There are plenty of similar studies I can pull up (or you can find if you'd prefer). The primary theories I've seen to explain it aren't overt racism. The first is the abysmal state of racial integration in the US. The theory is that we are attracted to what we are familiar with, and the lack of integration causes a bias against other races. The second is portrayal in media causing subconscious biases. Race is also the most picked preference for romantic partners, above religion and political preference. Can we meet in the middle and at least say there's something going on here besides a weirdly societal personal preference?

throwlaplace 6y ago

i have never understood the argument that "preferences in partners" isn't racist but preferences in ... employees, customers, contractors, movie stars, politicians, etc is. note: the answer here is not that the latter choices aren't racist.

mc32 6y ago

Not even that. It’s more superficial and insincere. They’re virtue signaling—not to black people, but to people who think it’s righteous to do such thing.

olliej 6y ago

I think the point they’re making is that if you’re filtering an entire group based on something that they cannot (and should not have to) change that’s kind of stupid. Having a preference is not the same as would never date/bone this race, regardless of any other facts about them. Think of it this way, now you’re open to a whole new world of rejection! :)

sacks2k 6y ago
"Having a preference is not the same as would never date/bone this race, regardless of any other facts about them." It might be. I know many African Americans that will not date someone that is not African american. It's a personal preference. Sure, you can just pick out the people you don't like, but I see this as the same as a dating company only have hetero couples.