> Do I continually push her to look at faces during conversations I'm sure you asked this mostly rhetorically, but I thought I'd chime in with my two cents. I

> Do I continually push her to look at faces during conversations I'm sure you asked this mostly rhetorically, but I thought I'd chime in with my two cents. If your daughter is on the autism spectrum (guessing from the context) and is 13, she probably already finds socializing somewhat aversive and exhausting. Pushing her to make the experience even more aversive by insisting she look people in the eye is probably going to make things worse. But I don't think that means that you can't change it. I would just suggest practice eye contact or looking at faces in small intervals only during some conversations. E.g. have a schedule and do a short conversation once a week where she deliberately practices it. More generally, maybe try to think of the goal as moving the needle from where she is, not to achieve neurotypical levels of eye contact.