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I'm not so sure. To me, "How many guys have you slept with?" is a gendered question. > If words like "guys" are causing someone distress then there are obvious

I'm not so sure. To me, "How many guys have you slept with?" is a gendered question. > If words like "guys" are causing someone distress then there are obviously bigger issues we need to address. Maybe this is true, but we can address the bigger issues while also making sure people are comfortable in the meantime :) it's really not a big deal to just avoid using a certain word if people don't like it.

MaxikCZ 6y ago
> it's really not a big deal to just avoid using a certain word if people don't like it. Okay, I say saying word veggies distresses me. Please stop using that word everyone. eat_veggies distresses me the most, coz it implies that the word veggies is used as healthy food, while I dont like eating healthy. I think its offensive from you to tell me what to eat. See? The problem with that kind of thinking is that anyone can declare anything distressing. If we declare "guys" as distressing, and allow gradual wiping of the word on that basis, where do we draw the line? I think all the guys should take a breath, eat some veggies and start worrying about other things, than if someone adressed them by word they dont like. I seriously dont get this trend of validation of being ofended by most random things.
- CathedralBorrow 6y ago
  > See? The problem with that kind of thinking is that anyone can declare anything distressing. True, but it tends to be quite easy to separate the real from the disingenuous like yours. So that's there I draw the line at least.
- eat_veggies 6y ago
  Ok I won't use the word around you, since it distresses you and because I respect your boundaries. That's where I draw the line. Enough people are uncomfortable with the word "guys" that it makes sense to not to use it unless you know that everyone you're addressing is okay with it. I know for a fact that you don't like "veggies" since you told me, so I won't use it with you. Easy, right?

MaxikCZ 6y ago

> it's really not a big deal to just avoid using a certain word if people don't like it. Okay, I say saying word veggies distresses me. Please stop using that word everyone. eat_veggies distresses me the most, coz it implies that the word veggies is used as healthy food, while I dont like eating healthy. I think its offensive from you to tell me what to eat. See? The problem with that kind of thinking is that anyone can declare anything distressing. If we declare "guys" as distressing, and allow gradual wiping of the word on that basis, where do we draw the line? I think all the guys should take a breath, eat some veggies and start worrying about other things, than if someone adressed them by word they dont like. I seriously dont get this trend of validation of being ofended by most random things.

CathedralBorrow 6y ago
> See? The problem with that kind of thinking is that anyone can declare anything distressing. True, but it tends to be quite easy to separate the real from the disingenuous like yours. So that's there I draw the line at least.
eat_veggies 6y ago
Ok I won't use the word around you, since it distresses you and because I respect your boundaries. That's where I draw the line. Enough people are uncomfortable with the word "guys" that it makes sense to not to use it unless you know that everyone you're addressing is okay with it. I know for a fact that you don't like "veggies" since you told me, so I won't use it with you. Easy, right?