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I think you'll find that most people really don't care what you're doing. You're just a mild curiosity to others, and your greatest motivators and your greatest

I think you'll find that most people really don't care what you're doing. You're just a mild curiosity to others, and your greatest motivators and your greatest stoppers are going to be you yourself. So don't frame things in terms of how much other people don't want you to do them - more likely than not, they really don't care. Just do what you want to do and don't do what you don't want to do. That's what every other person is doing.

chr15 16y ago
One of my favorite lines from Fight Club: You are not a unique and beautiful snowflake. You are the same decaying organic matter as everyone else, and we are all part of the same compost pile The real world is cold. It takes time, especially out of college/uni, to realize this, but you have to keep on pushing. Best of luck to you.
- gohat 16y ago
  A tough lesson I've learned is most people simply don't care. They don't wish you bad but they don't wish you well that much either - they simply don't care. This isn't a good or bad thing; it's just most people, the vast majority of the time, don't particularly care about what you're up to. Long term friends do, of course, at least a little, but in perhaps limited doses. This is both saddening and inspiring (liberating), depending on how you look at it.
  - Dylanlacey 16y ago
    Unfortunately many people DO care. They care to push you back down. No-one likes the deep guilt of watching someone make something better of themselves, and some people reconcile that by trying to make you fail.
  - peacemaker 16y ago
    I learned this lesson after my recent business failure. I spent months working extremely hard to get the doors open only to find that no-one cared I was there. I didn't neglect marketing but I didn't push hard enough either. I think I got caught up in the fact that because I cared, everyone else would too. It's a very sobering feeling when you're standing in an empty shop on opening day wondering, "where is everyone?" Lots of lessons learned there!
lux 16y ago
Very true. It can be really disheartening to work for praise or acknowledgement from others, because it's an unrealistic expectation that can't be met. That's why I love the "scratch your own itch" philosophy for judging good ideas, helps keep you motivated. And if you personally have a need for what you're building, someone else surely will too. The hardest part is often finding them and conveying it to them, but at least you can be reasonably certain they're out there :) Another thing to consider is how much acknowledgement you can expect prior to having a tangible product. In my current project I make little updates on Facebook, but since my friends don't have the thing in front of them how excited can they really be about it? But the ones who've tried it, and the ones I'm working with testing it out love it, so there you go! I guess it comes down to managing your personal expectations to help keep yourself motivated along the way. And who cares about age and life experience, just go for it! That's how you get life experience.
turar 16y ago
"A young man worries what people think about him. A mature man doesn't care what others think of him. An old man realizes that people didn't really think of him that much." (or something like that, can't remember the exact quote)
joshu 16y ago
I return to this comic sometimes: http://www.viruscomix.com/page528.html http://www.viruscomix.com/page528.html It says basically what Max said, except with more pictures.

chr15 16y ago

One of my favorite lines from Fight Club: You are not a unique and beautiful snowflake. You are the same decaying organic matter as everyone else, and we are all part of the same compost pile The real world is cold. It takes time, especially out of college/uni, to realize this, but you have to keep on pushing. Best of luck to you.

gohat 16y ago
A tough lesson I've learned is most people simply don't care. They don't wish you bad but they don't wish you well that much either - they simply don't care. This isn't a good or bad thing; it's just most people, the vast majority of the time, don't particularly care about what you're up to. Long term friends do, of course, at least a little, but in perhaps limited doses. This is both saddening and inspiring (liberating), depending on how you look at it.
- Dylanlacey 16y ago
  Unfortunately many people DO care. They care to push you back down. No-one likes the deep guilt of watching someone make something better of themselves, and some people reconcile that by trying to make you fail.
- peacemaker 16y ago
  I learned this lesson after my recent business failure. I spent months working extremely hard to get the doors open only to find that no-one cared I was there. I didn't neglect marketing but I didn't push hard enough either. I think I got caught up in the fact that because I cared, everyone else would too. It's a very sobering feeling when you're standing in an empty shop on opening day wondering, "where is everyone?" Lots of lessons learned there!

lux 16y ago

Very true. It can be really disheartening to work for praise or acknowledgement from others, because it's an unrealistic expectation that can't be met. That's why I love the "scratch your own itch" philosophy for judging good ideas, helps keep you motivated. And if you personally have a need for what you're building, someone else surely will too. The hardest part is often finding them and conveying it to them, but at least you can be reasonably certain they're out there :) Another thing to consider is how much acknowledgement you can expect prior to having a tangible product. In my current project I make little updates on Facebook, but since my friends don't have the thing in front of them how excited can they really be about it? But the ones who've tried it, and the ones I'm working with testing it out love it, so there you go! I guess it comes down to managing your personal expectations to help keep yourself motivated along the way. And who cares about age and life experience, just go for it! That's how you get life experience.

turar 16y ago

"A young man worries what people think about him. A mature man doesn't care what others think of him. An old man realizes that people didn't really think of him that much." (or something like that, can't remember the exact quote)

joshu 16y ago

I return to this comic sometimes: http://www.viruscomix.com/page528.html http://www.viruscomix.com/page528.html It says basically what Max said, except with more pictures.