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One aspect of this is that introverts have been living in an world designed maximally for the liking and benefit of extroverts and now the tables have turned co
by Consultant32452 6y ago
One aspect of this is that introverts have been living in an world designed maximally for the liking and benefit of extroverts and now the tables have turned completely. It's one of those situations where you have a privilege you weren't aware of, and then lost it, so it feels like an assault.
To any extroverts really struggling, I get it. I understand how difficult it must be. I mean this with no ill intentions at all, but I've felt the way you're feeling my whole working life, working in an environment not suited to my personality at all. I hope you too can have empathy for the people on the other side who have had to live in your world.
- anyfoo 6y agoWill you stop it with the "oh no extroverts" stuff? I am definitely an extrovert, and I greatly prefer working from home. With only a few days here and there (certainly not necessarily every week) to meet up with people face to face. I am more productive like this, and much happier. Being an extrovert does not mean that you need or enjoy the company of any people any time.
- ghaff 6y agoAnd the binary gradations generally. I'm not even sure which I am. I like being on stage, going to events, etc. But I have also written books (which take a lot of private research/writing time) and I definitely don't naturally gravitate towards engaging in conversation with people I don't know. I don't miss an office which I haven't really worked in for a while but I miss events and so forth a great deal.
- HighPlainsDrftr 6y agoFor me, I've always liked working in an office, but I've always hated, what should I call it - drama/politics/whatever? I've worked in such wierd places over the years. For example, if you had an office of 100 people, 10 were on your team, I would probably not like 2 of the people on my team and 20 in the office. Most of the time, this is not a problem. However, you get around people that you really like and tell a joke, or you just say something a bit freely - and all of a sudden, you now have people that don't like you. (The specific office situation I'm thinking of had an average of salary of $15k at the time - but our group probably had an average of $150k at the time). It was tough. I don't think it was a good idea overall either. I've seen other situations like it as well. I don't like working from at home. But I hate dealing with that kind of bullshit.
- Consultant32452 6y agoBeing an introvert means spending time around people costs you energy whereas it gives you energy if you're an extrovert. Introverts enjoy being around people, some enjoy being on stage, etc. Those things are totally irrelevant to introvert/extrovert.
- jasondigitized 6y agoWhat does being an extrovert mean? I assumed it described people who felt their most calm, energetic and happy while in the company of people.
- Consultant32452 6y agoOne useful metric is whether hanging out with your friends after work gives you energy or costs you energy. Enjoying being around people is irrelevant. Introverts love being around people just as much as extroverts.
- Polylactic_acid 6y agoI would consider myself an extrovert and hanging out with friends does not tire me. But people in the office are not really friends and we are not hanging out. I have found myself with a lot more energy working from home since when I'm really starting to feel tired I can run a few laps of the house and do some pushups and I feel energised again.
- watwut 6y agoThe world is not split into two distinct groups - introverts and extroverts. Rather it is curve with majority of people somewhere in the middle. Only few people are on the either extreme end of that curve.
- Consultant32452 6y agoHere's two distinct groups: people that my comment was referring to, and people that it wasn't.