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so she chose to assume that the guy was stereotyping while other interpretations were available. That exactly my point - she saw things she was inclined to see.

• scott_s 16y ago
  After a point, all communication relies on assumed prior understandings. The question becomes if those assumptions are reasonable or not. I think hers were.
  • VladRussian 16y ago
    >The question becomes if those assumptions are reasonable or not. There is no question here - her assumption is reasonable based on the stereotype she has. There is absolutely no evidence that the guy shared her stereotype.
    • scott_s 16y ago
      Direct evidence from him, no. But I think it's a reasonable assumption given that it's a stereotype in our culture. If I swapped the genders, then his question sounds completely out-of-place to me. I'm willing to assume that it is sexism because the mental-model I think a person would have to have for it to not be sexism seems less likely. One could, of course, just ask the person what they meant, but we weren't privy to the actual conversation to know if she did.
      • VladRussian 16y ago
        > the mental-model I think a person would have to have for it to not be sexism seems less likely. well, nice definition of a stereotype.