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I’m not sure how you make that determination. For social reasons, the closer people are the more they may tolerate rude behavior they otherwise find unacceptabl

I’m not sure how you make that determination. For social reasons, the closer people are the more they may tolerate rude behavior they otherwise find unacceptable. For the same social reasons, if you ask them their opinion directly they may lie and say it doesn’t bother them at all. They may also exhibit behaviors they personally find rude, so even that is not a useful indicator.

JumpCrisscross 6y ago
> I’m not sure how you make that determination Solely based on my actions and reactions. People who take a simple confirmation and turn it into a multi-line e-mail are, to me, frustrating. People who do that in time-sensitive contexts are memorably infuriating. Then again, I’ll write similar e-mails to people I don’t know on account of social convention. I’ve never met a highly-productive person who doesn’t think similarly. This is true across cultures. It’s also partly a reflection of hierarchy. People who see each other as equals can (note: option, not obligation) dispose with certain niceties. (If I got a subject-only e-mail from a new hire, I might see that negatively.) Shifting to friends, I don’t have many who confuse customs with respect. The two are, in my view, orthogonal.