"There's a whole movement now of people coming out and saying that they don't like having kids - as a society, we made that impossible to say without severe cha

"There's a whole movement now of people coming out and saying that they don't like having kids - as a society, we made that impossible to say without severe chastisement. We have no idea if the women in your life who regret it now would be happy with children. It's all a gamble, and tell people that their time is running out isn't particularly helpful, and running entirely on guilt." Their time is running out. In a natural average progression, people have a peak in healthiness, and then decline starts as age progress. Whatever you hold as "fair" does not matter. Mother Nature has a different plan. We can buy sometimes not all time. "Are non-optimal babies undesirable?" We as a society have whole care with conception, prenatal care, prenatal screening, and checks. That shows how we care about it. That is a signal that yes society as a whole wants healthy babies. ... .... ... The path of having babies is NOT for all. Society had a place without children for positions as mentors, charity, and educators. If you are OK and it seems you are happy with your option that is great. You remember me of my "wise uncle" that has a lot of stories and wisdom to teach us. And his role was to mentor and give a different perspective. When we got angry with parents or don't know what to do and need advice without the parent's bias he was our mentor. But my point is: 1. Time is a factor; 2. No, you don't have all the time; The message my friends and me got and BELIEVED was: "you can do it all!" "After your Ph.D. you can marry" "Once you get your assistant professor position you can start". "Better finish your Ph.D., buy a house and then get a raise to have kids". "After you finish with your startup then we have kids". Now imagine what happened: Dotcom bust, 9/11, financial crisis, mortgage crisis, wars... One thing is to have it clear and decide not to have a kid like you. clear as crystal. Another is like me and believe in the lies. I am not saying that you were wrong. I am saying: I was wrong Please consider I may have some valid points whoever is reading this.