> If you are putting off having a child on account of money you are doing life wrong. Plenty of large families have non-software incomes and do just fine. They

> If you are putting off having a child on account of money you are doing life wrong. Plenty of large families have non-software incomes and do just fine. They may not be able to eat out but it's a sacrifice worth making. This varies a lot on where you live and the income. Not everyone in software is making $400k+/yr in the bay area. Plenty of large families continue a streak of poverty for generations. Poverty and trauma are very generational. If you don't want to continue that streak then you need to get yourself out first.