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But both are personal. A better take would be "This solution/process/method is wrong and here's why". Make it about the issue, not the person.
by shaggyfrog 16y ago
But both are personal. A better take would be "This solution/process/method is wrong and here's why". Make it about the issue, not the person.
- reinhardt 16y agoUnfortunately not even this works for many/most regular (read: non geek) folks: "Why prove to a man he is wrong? Is that going to make him like you? Why not let him save face? He didn't ask for your opinion. He didn't want it. Why argue with him? You can't win an argument, because if you lose, you lose it; and if you win it, you lose it. Why? You will feel fine. But what about him? You have made him feel inferior, you hurt his pride, insult his intelligence, his judgement, and his self-respect, and he'll resent your triumph. That will make him strike back, but it will never make him want to change his mind. A man convinced against his will is of the same opinion still." - Dale Carnegie, 1936 Sigh.. sometime I feel I'm of a different species from people that take almost everything personally.