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In general, is there a well-defined line between trying to get the best out of someone, and being abusive. I mean one that generalizes across people? Behaviour
by JabavuAdams 6y ago
In general, is there a well-defined line between trying to get the best out of someone, and being abusive. I mean one that generalizes across people?
Behaviour that would be okay in some contexts (military training) would rightly be considered abusive in other contexts.
Two individuals can be subjected to the same treatment and have widely divergent ideas about whether it was abusive or not.
- heymijo 6y agoThat's a great question. Followed by a good point about perception of the individual being important. As for a well-defined line about abuse, I'll draw from Justice Potter Stewart's utterance about pornography [0]: > I know it when I see it. [0] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jacobellis_v._Ohio#Supreme_Court https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jacobellis_v._Ohio#Supreme_Cou...
- darkerside 6y agoWhile there is no one right answer for everybody, I like to think about the ideas of "eustress" versus distress. Both kinds of stress are uncomfortable for people, but one kind results in positive growth and the other in exhaustion. The best coaches and teachers are able to recognize where someone is, what the next level is for that person, and knows how to push (or pull) them into that next level for a while.