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I... just, what exact message are you trying to send with that? Because I can't think of one that is not just massively bad.

• leetcrew 6y ago
  we live in a world with lots of rules. some of them are dumb, but carry serious consequences if you're caught. the message is, if you're gonna break the rules, you need to at least get away with it. it's (usually) better to get caught by your parents the first time, rather than an institution like school that isn't as invested in the outcome for you as an individual. not quite the same, but this reminds me of a conversation I recently had with my parents. they were fairly strict when I was a kid, and I was asking them as an adult why they were like that. they told me that they expected me to break the rules and considered it a healthy part of growing up. they set the rules conservatively so I wouldn't need to do anything terribly unsafe just to rebel.
  • tetris11 6y ago
    The alternative is of course that, out of love and respect for your parents, you chose not to bend the rules even when you could have because you trusted that your parents placed the rules there for good purpose in the first place. To then find out that a) the rules were placed to control you and not necessarily protect you, and b) they didn't trust you not to break them, and c) they wouldn't follow these rules themselves.... ...that surely leads to some serious implications in how you view society if the only definitions of rules you've experienced are seen as temporary barriers to getting what you want