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People who lack social tact need to be taught it. They aren't stupid, generally, they can be taught, if it's made clear that they must. Treating people badly
by AndrewDucker 16y ago
People who lack social tact need to be taught it. They aren't stupid, generally, they can be taught, if it's made clear that they must.
Treating people badly is a great way to drive out those who don't have the ability to deal with flamewars and shoutiness. And many of those people have a lot to contribute.
- wtfffr 16y agoPeople won't learn that when sites are run horribly, as this one is. My first interaction on this site consisted of somebody making a snarky personal attack, which got upvoted. The person apologized via email, but pg refused to remove any of it. Apparently it was important to pg that some snarky, bullshit, personal attack remain present, visible and upvoted, even though both I and the person who made it wanted it gone. So seriously... with leadership like that, how the fuck can anybody expect people to be nice?
- ahoyhere 16y agoThey should learn it themselves. There are books & training courses on the subject. But people rarely seek these out because they are so defensive about their deficiencies that they turn even those into a contention -- they say "this is just the way I am, take it or leave it."
- stcredzero 16y agoThink of it as evolution in action. (And I shall take this whole post as a call to clean up my act.)
- nerfhammer 16y agoSo all we have to do it just wait a few generations, and...
- mgns 16y agoHopefully just one generation as being an ass may stop them from getting along with the opposite sex and reproduce...
- pyre 16y agoOn the other hand, that may be the cause instead of a side-effect, at least in a number of cases. (e.g. "You need to get laid, bro")
- cakeface 16y agoUnfortunately being an ass is frequently a great way to get laid. Nice guys finish last and all...
- crasshopper 16y agoSure, lots of men ('cause programmers are male, right?) get positive female attention by publicly insulting people who know less about programming and computers. Meanness is always unattractive. Always.
- detst 16y agoThis is such BS and makes me sigh every time I hear it. It's not being an ass that gets them laid, it's the other characteristics that an asshole typically has that gets them laid. Things like confidence, not coming off desperate and having experience not just approaching a girl but being able to hold a conversation... and the many more things that increase attraction but these are the basics. These characteristics in a nice guy will get him laid more than the asshole and he'll have opportunities with girls that see right through the asshole (and some would say these are the more desirable women).
- jhamburger 16y agoI wish this were true. Well, you're not completely wrong- An outright asshole is getting by on confidence alone. But a guy who is polite but disarmingly arrogant, condescending in subtle ways, is much more desirable than a confident nice guy.
- danssig 16y agoYou seem to imply that being an asshole is genetic. Surely it has a large social aspect (i.e. can't be "bread out")?
- stcredzero 16y agoYou seem to imply that being an asshole is genetic. Only to people who have a shallow understanding of evolution. (Left as an exercise to student.) (i.e. can't be "bread out")? Unfortunately, no. [irony captioned for the impaired]
- danssig 16y agoThe tone of this post seems to indicate your effort to "clean up your act" isn't going very well.
- stcredzero 16y agoWell, some cases are more difficult than others. High amounts of stupidity are more challenging.
- shaggyfrog 16y agoHave you ever heard the song Your Friend Wil by MC Frontalot, nerd rapper extraordinaire? Your post is basically a perfect two-line summary of the lyrics! http://frontalot.com/index.php/?page=lyrics&lyricid=68 http://frontalot.com/index.php/?page=lyrics&lyricid=68