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integrity issue IMO. you're OK with making commitments and not delivering on them. controversial, perhaps, but fixing your integrity issues can go a long way.
by maximente 6y ago
integrity issue IMO. you're OK with making commitments and not delivering on them.
controversial, perhaps, but fixing your integrity issues can go a long way. part of that means making commitments that matter, not role-playing about them.
most try to fix their integrity issues overnight by doing things like dieting, planning to go from 0 to insane exercise, or whatever else. that's tough, and probably won't work unless you've got the reserve capacity of someone who just took the cloth for like 12 months or something.
- Ductapemaster 6y agoThis is an excellent observation, thank you for the perspective. I realized that this is likely what I struggle with, and procrastination is rather a symptom of the issue. I find it very hard to make commitments to myself (and sometimes others) that I will follow through on. Once I am in a groove, I will continue, but starting is painful. Have you dealt with rebuilding this in yourself?
- maximente 6y agoa little bit :) most helpful for me was making a "said i'd do it" category on my planning document. it has led me to: - commit to doing things i put on the list - even if they suck - lead me to promising to do a lot less things (generally good) but, mostly i just wondered: do i want to see myself as someone who flakes? who says they'll do something and doesn't? does that reflect on my behavior in things that aren't so small? and decided that i needed to do better for myself.
- Ductapemaster 6y agoThanks for the insight! I definitely have some introspection to do on the topic, but I like the idea of the "Said I'd Do It" section for to-dos. Those tasks are inherently different than normal ones and I think the separation is a good training mechanism.