I think people are just pointing out there’s a distinction between: 1) hosting someone with no expectations, hitting it off and consensually getting together

I think people are just pointing out there’s a distinction between: 1) hosting someone with no expectations, hitting it off and consensually getting together 2) hosting someone with the uncommunicated expectation they will sleep with you and pressuring someone alone in your house in a strange country until they consent. People are cool with 1 and not with 2.