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> I realize that some public discussions I had with them seem to have been more politically motivated than I realized at the time That's something I have also
by Udo 16y ago
> I realize that some public discussions I had with them seem to have been more politically motivated than I realized at the time
That's something I have also struggled with repeatedly over the years. There are quite a lot of people who appear ignorant, needlessly antagonistic, and generally unlikable - yet they somehow mastered the art of getting a lot of support and sympathy. Often you realize too late that a pointless little discussion was actually a pretty good setup to gather support from the other people on the team. This is usually the moment where you discover that your opponent isn't as stupid as you always thought.
I wish I had something more positive to say, but in my experience it makes little sense to go up against those people, mainly because they're simply better at manipulating everyone, but also because doing so will eat a lot of your time and energy for trying to beat them at their own game. In my experience there is often a reason why this kind of person works at your company: it's either because management failed at hiring decent people, or it's because they hired someone who actually reflects their own morals there. In any case, the company's culture has probably already been subverted. Staying away from these environments is more rewarding than adapting to them.
> So is this a hopeless situation? I'm a bit hesitant to jump ship because my work history in the Valley hasn't been terrific.
You know, it doesn't sound like you are working there for the awesome product and the great team experience to begin with. If that assumption is valid, I would suggest you start looking for another job immediately. What do you mean your work history isn't terrific? I believe you can always look for a startup with a concept that motivates you and simply jump onboard as long as it's a good personality match this time?
- gallifrean 16y ago> You know, it doesn't sound like you are working there for the awesome product and the great team experience to begin with. Actually, I like the product and the team. The person I don't get along with is actually pretty likable until you discover that there's a nasty mean streak underneath the surface. It's not that I figured that they weren't smart as much as it is that I figured that they genuinely meant well. That said, I think it's probably a good idea for me to start looking around now anyway. > What do you mean your work history isn't terrific? I was fired from my last job after 3 months for much the same reason, albeit with me being much more naive about what was going on than this time. > I believe you can always look for a startup with a concept that motivates you and simply jump onboard as long as it's a good personality match this time? The problem is that it always seems like a good match at first. It's just very difficult to tell how things will work out before joining a company.