I mean, this isn't necessarily a 'dual income' thing, this is a 'cares exclusively about work' thing. I have no children. I like my job. I spend my free time d

I mean, this isn't necessarily a 'dual income' thing, this is a 'cares exclusively about work' thing. I have no children. I like my job. I spend my free time doing things that aren't software development. I theoretically could work outside of work hours, sure, if I were a boring person with no interests. I think that most people who treat their jobs as their 'calling' and burn themselves out on them ruin the world for both themselves and the rest of us. Races to the bottom everywhere. It doesn't bother me too much though, since ultimately the selection pressure is such that the brown-nosers end up being abused by their managers whilst the stubborn lot get promoted. YMMV.