My question: Why didn't the guy with the height issue not use his real name, or at least a contactable pseudonym? I believe the answer lies in his statements a

My question: Why didn't the guy with the height issue not use his real name, or at least a contactable pseudonym? I believe the answer lies in his statements about lacking confidence. I completely agree with you regarding meeting someone in social situations where something other than "dating" is the primary purpose. From personal experience, though, those circumstances are more difficult to approach a person you're attracted to (unless they are specifically geared toward meeting people (for relationship purposes) within a specific shared interest). Nonetheless, if you lack confidence to approach a prospective mate, the setting won't matter much, you simply won't approach someone you're interested in. Personally (as I had written previously), I advocate diving in head first into the "dating scene" without prejudging the scene. You've referred to it as shallow and sex focused. It doesn't have to be. Commit to not having sex until you're married, or some other meaningful milestone and approach the dating scene that way. I didn't find my bride in the shallow, sex focused dating scene, but I would have never approached her if I didn't have the practice that said dating scene gave me. I believe, in most cases, men have a one-up that the person answering this question failed to take into account. Most men place a far higher value on physical attributes than women do (though, height is one of those attributes that seems to be very important to the women I've known, so I sympathize with this gentleman ... being skinny and not muscularly developed tends to follow pretty closely, though ... and I'm in that camp). I remember how difficult it was at the time, and how insecure I was, but it got easier and I wouldn't have met my bride if not for the miserable experience of submitting myself to rather consistent rejection.