People will jump down your throat: "well, you're not doing it right!" but what you're stating is a true and hard problem that's deeper than any process can addr

People will jump down your throat: "well, you're not doing it right!" but what you're stating is a true and hard problem that's deeper than any process can address. About the only actionable advice I can offer is (a) admit to being blocked async in real time and then (b) use your standup to escalate and highlight where you are still blocked: "as I indicated in my chat/email yesterday I'm having trouble with xyz..." If even this is unacceptable you're essentially on a team where you are not comfortable or not allowed to ask for help. I'd evaluate the former to make sure it's not your fear of asking for help, and if it's the later, run. You either need to affect the change you desire or go somewhere this sort of behaviour is not tolerated. If you can't or won't push for allowing people to ask for help, either live with this disfunction or quit.