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Survival mostly, I have kids and a fulltime job.

tarellel 6y ago
I completely agree, I have 4 kids and a full time job. Helping them with their homework all day is a full time job as it is. My teams manager has noticed a reduction is everyone’s productivity; due to kids, mental health, stress, etc and has been quite forgiving so far as long as we’re clearly getting work done.
senectus1 6y ago
same. I have a bunch of things I'd love to do like others seem to be (whats this "free time" thing?), but I get kids organised, work, get dinner ready, sleep. my only real "down time" is taken up by an hour of predawn cycling atm
rock_artist 6y ago
Having a child running while you try to solve something or in a video meeting sure doesn’t help. But in the time I had I’ve been able to make my child a simple drawing app for the iPad as many of them are too complicated or too formed. Hope to finish it and releasing though.
jsshah 6y ago
I have two kids (3 and 7) and we both work ... with multiple work meetings .. zoom based school ... homeworks ... managing fights between the kids ... and endless cooking and cleaning .. leaves me with very little time ... I told my team at work that I am at 10% of my productivity and they have been extremely supportive ...
boraoztunc 6y ago
Good luck!
benja123 6y ago
I definitely get that. We were pretty lucky - we were able to bring in a babysitter in the morning which was really helpful (still allowed here in IL). Also when our first child was born my wife and I had a business together so we had a routine from then that we could fall back on. It's really hard, but it mostly involves insane levels of cooperation - and giving each other equal times to work and take care of the kids. The one thing that would have made our lives much easier would have been a way to share office calendars (different companies) so that if either one of us had a meeting at any given time it was booked off for the other one.
pqs 6y ago
Same here. Raising kids, cooking, cleaning and working is more than enough. After two months (Spain) we now have the right to go for a walk every day with the kids. This has improved things. During the hard lockdown (no right to go outside with kids) I had very bad days (stress, anxiety, etc.), which affected my kids (they became angry aggressive, something that I had never seen in them) and with help from a psychologist I learned to calm myself down and now things are fine again. I guess that my side project has been to learn about my own psychology and how it affects my family, and to learn to deal with all that. I have grown a lot as a person!
- lifeisstillgood 6y ago
  This. I feel I should be pushing the schooling and learning harder, but my wife is leaning hard into their emotional well being first. And watching my middle daughter teach our youngest how to say "i feel" during an argument and not "you did" means I need to back off. I might even be growing as a parent too.
zebnyc 6y ago
Have a two year old who is wants constant attention. Typical day is I take the morning shift. Wife does the afternoon shift and I again do the evening shift. Once the toddler goes to bed at 8 pm, we both work (typically past midnight) What makes this very challenging is that a) Kid wants attention continually so there is no point in trying to do any work while it is my turn. b) We live in an apartment complex and folks who live downstairs have called cops on our kid multiple times for running around. This despite the fact that he never does during "queit hours (sleeps from 8 pm to 7 am)" and these noises are protected by SF tenant laws. Couple of weeks back a SF police officer knocked on our door and tried to arbitrate. Internally, I wanted to slam the door in the cop's face though I was respectful. c) Because of (b) kid knows that we are very sensitive about him running around. So anytime he feels he is not getting attention, he will run or stomp on the floor. Fun times
- kchoudhu 6y ago
  Man, what is wrong with the ghouls downstairs.
  - dominotw 6y ago
    maybe trying to work?
    - pradn 6y ago
      It's absolutely not justified. Talking to neighbors is a lot better than calling the police, which has a small but real chance of ending in violence.
      - dominotw 6y ago
        > cops on our kid multiple times obviously 'talking' wouldn't have worked here. If they are just ignoring the cops, why would they listen to neighbor.
        kchoudhu 6y ago

I completely agree, I have 4 kids and a full time job. Helping them with their homework all day is a full time job as it is. My teams manager has noticed a reduction is everyone’s productivity; due to kids, mental health, stress, etc and has been quite forgiving so far as long as we’re clearly getting work done.

senectus1 6y ago

same. I have a bunch of things I'd love to do like others seem to be (whats this "free time" thing?), but I get kids organised, work, get dinner ready, sleep. my only real "down time" is taken up by an hour of predawn cycling atm

rock_artist 6y ago

Having a child running while you try to solve something or in a video meeting sure doesn’t help. But in the time I had I’ve been able to make my child a simple drawing app for the iPad as many of them are too complicated or too formed. Hope to finish it and releasing though.

jsshah 6y ago

I have two kids (3 and 7) and we both work ... with multiple work meetings .. zoom based school ... homeworks ... managing fights between the kids ... and endless cooking and cleaning .. leaves me with very little time ... I told my team at work that I am at 10% of my productivity and they have been extremely supportive ...

boraoztunc 6y ago

Good luck!

benja123 6y ago

I definitely get that. We were pretty lucky - we were able to bring in a babysitter in the morning which was really helpful (still allowed here in IL). Also when our first child was born my wife and I had a business together so we had a routine from then that we could fall back on. It's really hard, but it mostly involves insane levels of cooperation - and giving each other equal times to work and take care of the kids. The one thing that would have made our lives much easier would have been a way to share office calendars (different companies) so that if either one of us had a meeting at any given time it was booked off for the other one.

pqs 6y ago

Same here. Raising kids, cooking, cleaning and working is more than enough. After two months (Spain) we now have the right to go for a walk every day with the kids. This has improved things. During the hard lockdown (no right to go outside with kids) I had very bad days (stress, anxiety, etc.), which affected my kids (they became angry aggressive, something that I had never seen in them) and with help from a psychologist I learned to calm myself down and now things are fine again. I guess that my side project has been to learn about my own psychology and how it affects my family, and to learn to deal with all that. I have grown a lot as a person!

lifeisstillgood 6y ago
This. I feel I should be pushing the schooling and learning harder, but my wife is leaning hard into their emotional well being first. And watching my middle daughter teach our youngest how to say "i feel" during an argument and not "you did" means I need to back off. I might even be growing as a parent too.

zebnyc 6y ago

Have a two year old who is wants constant attention. Typical day is I take the morning shift. Wife does the afternoon shift and I again do the evening shift. Once the toddler goes to bed at 8 pm, we both work (typically past midnight) What makes this very challenging is that a) Kid wants attention continually so there is no point in trying to do any work while it is my turn. b) We live in an apartment complex and folks who live downstairs have called cops on our kid multiple times for running around. This despite the fact that he never does during "queit hours (sleeps from 8 pm to 7 am)" and these noises are protected by SF tenant laws. Couple of weeks back a SF police officer knocked on our door and tried to arbitrate. Internally, I wanted to slam the door in the cop's face though I was respectful. c) Because of (b) kid knows that we are very sensitive about him running around. So anytime he feels he is not getting attention, he will run or stomp on the floor. Fun times

kchoudhu 6y ago
Man, what is wrong with the ghouls downstairs.
- dominotw 6y ago
  maybe trying to work?
  - pradn 6y ago
    It's absolutely not justified. Talking to neighbors is a lot better than calling the police, which has a small but real chance of ending in violence.
    - dominotw 6y ago
      > cops on our kid multiple times obviously 'talking' wouldn't have worked here. If they are just ignoring the cops, why would they listen to neighbor.
      - kchoudhu 6y ago