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How is this different than giving your children to orphanage?
by lihaciudaniel 6y ago
How is this different than giving your children to orphanage?
- jtjbdhsjjdnd 6y agoTypical Western chauvinism. Grandparents are the wisest and kindest people in your family. They usually cope with children upbringing much better than parents.
- himlion 6y agoThey also have a lot more time on their hands.
- saagarjha 6y agoThey also have childrearing experience.
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- hrktb 6y agoWile all of these might be true, the results heavily depend on your kids age and temper, and the grand parent’s age and physical abilities. The sleep deprivation and constant attention needed in the first months can be pretty tough for people not in their prime anymore, for instance.
- fireattack 6y agoTypically when 'satellite babies' happen, it is because both new parents work, and the grandparents are likely retired or have more flexibility in their work schedule due to seniority. They're not in their prime, sure, but they have more free time (and experience).
- hrktb 6y agoI agree it can work. I'd just advocate to be careful, as parents tend to forget the reality of it, especially decades later. Experience sure helps, but it's not a silver bullet either. We had our grandparents come to help for the first born, just to send them back because they were getting tons of germs and the lack of sleep was killing them. Two years later it was a perfect match and they really enjoyed taking care of the kid.
- MisterTea 6y agoIn ye olde days grandparents were much younger. Parents had children in their 20's putting grandparents in the 50-60 year range by the time grandchildren are born. Still plenty able in that age range so it makes sense. Now parents are having children in their 30's pushing grandparents into their 60's and 70's.
- croon 6y agoIt's likely grandparents and extended family have been involved in child rearing for most of history in communities, but doing this remotely hasn't. The end result is likely that they're not your kids in more than a biological and economic sense if you don't go to lengths to be involved in your childs life (more than) daily. I don't think that is western chauvinism, but rather universal developmental psychology. It will be (for lack of a better word) interesting to see studies on this.
- kgwgk 6y agoYou get it back a few years later.
- dntbnmpls 6y agoFrom the wiki article. The first two sentences. "Satellite babies (also called Satellite Children) refer to immigrants’ children who are temporarily sent back to their home country by their parents to be reared by extended family." These kids are being raised by their extended family. " Typically, the satellite babies are born in the host country and sent back as infants, returning to their parents in time to start schooling or when their parents have established financial stability." Then they reunite. In other words, nothing like giving your children to an orphanage.
- zankly 6y agoHow is it similar? A grandparent is nothing like an orphanage.
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