This reminded me of a dialog I witnessed many years ago. One guy was describing how offended he was when people used the term "black", because he considered him

This reminded me of a dialog I witnessed many years ago. One guy was describing how offended he was when people used the term "black", because he considered himself "African American". The other guy, who considered himself "black", loathed the term "African American". Hate does not exist in words. It exists in the mind of the person using the words. And we can never know what is in that mind without knowing the person on an intimate level. Until we all understand this, all this noisy anger and offense will never end.