Fear of failure which maybe is tied to "shoulds, wouldas, couldas" - 'I "should" have completed X' and if haven't completed it will instil a thinking pattern of

Fear of failure which maybe is tied to "shoulds, wouldas, couldas" - 'I "should" have completed X' and if haven't completed it will instil a thinking pattern of guilt and shame, beating yourself up; solution is to catch yourself if you say "should", perhaps first having someone else point it out to you in conversation so you can start catching yourself, and then replacing "should" with say "need." It's subtle but it can be dramatic.