What use case are you thinking of? Two peers, or routing through networks of distributed decentralized peers? For the latter you could take your existing model

What use case are you thinking of? Two peers, or routing through networks of distributed decentralized peers? For the latter you could take your existing model and add an extension "gateway protocol" that would connect servers to servers, and through that protocol support advanced routing, which would in effect become a distributed decentralized peer to peer network. (obviously all that is a lot more work than you need for your use cases, but it seems like an interesting way to give people sexual agency without either a) commercial infrastructure or b) potentially unsafe public services)