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I didn't know it was possible to switch. I'd be interested to hear about the process you took and the outcomes and side effects from it (pros, cons, etc).
by rocktronica 16y ago
I didn't know it was possible to switch. I'd be interested to hear about the process you took and the outcomes and side effects from it (pros, cons, etc).
- dustingetz 16y agoI did it too, during and right after college. if you nag me i might write about it. "fake it till you make it"
- artmageddon 16y agoDo it. The rest of us are writing about it, you know you want to too! ;)
- rocktronica 16y agoThis is me nagging.
- zacharycohn 16y ago"Fake it 'till you make it" has so fundamentally changed how I function.
- Dylanlacey 16y agoHeh, amazing isn't it? Bullshit has a single purpose, and that's to turn itself into gold.
- zacharycohn 16y agoI disagree with the sentiment behind your explanation (or at least what I read into it). It's not so much that you're bullshitting and it's turning to gold - it's that you pretend to be comfortable in a situation where you are not, and then as you get used to it you become comfortable, and then you "make it."
- Dylanlacey 16y agoYes, OK, Bluster is probably a better word. You pretend to be comfortable until you are. Basically, you're not going to suddenly become great as a CEO, but if you don't at least give off SOME confidence, your employees, partners, board, competitors, customers won't have any faith.
- gaius 16y agoThere's no magic there, it's simply experience. Do something risky, see nothing goes wrong, understand that the risk was lower than you originally estimated, lather, rinse, repeat.
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- xom 16y agoFaking it is making it, most of the time it seems.
- simcop2387 16y agoI'm not enough of an extrovert to nag you myself but I'm hoping that someone might nag me into do it.
- analyst74 16y agoI would, except I can't. :p It was a slow process, and not really something you can accurately monitor yourself. A lot of the changes happen without me realizing until pointed out by friends. No you can't switch, but you can definitely shift your personality slowly. If you think grass is greener on the other side, start walking this way now. :)
- mitjak 16y agoI'm in a similar situation as analyst74. I used to be rather introverted, but in the recent years I started thinking of interaction with people I don't know that well a game of sorts. Oftentimes, people are far more relaxed and natural with their friends than they are with co-workers or strangers. Subconsciously, we assign these 'roles' for ourselves (you with friends, you online, you on the bus, you at the doctor's office etc) and stick to them. Breaking the boundaries of the roles a bit and being the same across the board is what I found to be quite helpful in being more social and just feeling better about life overall. For example, I'll randomly chat up a stranger waiting for a delayed bus; make eye contact and smile at a person random person on the subway (especially if attractive ;P); or talk to or play with someone's kid while on a train (kids are usually very approachable and love playing on a boring subway ride; your mileage may vary though as North American parents seem to think everyone around them is a potential child rapist). It might feel strange at first, but the more you behave like a friendly approachable being the more people respond with the same. After all, most people, unless they are rather extroverted, are just like you, and are basically waiting for someone else to initiate contact with them.