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"But it's walking that fine line between personal and professional life, while also bridging the technical abilities parts and the personal chemistry parts." T

"But it's walking that fine line between personal and professional life, while also bridging the technical abilities parts and the personal chemistry parts." This is called networking and I don't think it's going away anytime soon. I'm a consultant and I get along very well with the director of engineering where I'm working now. When cuts happen, I won't be the first to go. The first to go will be the people that have no relationship with upper management. Career advancement isn't all about the job that you do. "Basically I'd hope we can prioritise other ways to create trust than building personal bonds (TBH, being good at one's job for a decent amount of time seems plenty enough to me)" Being only good at one's job is a great way to keep your current job and position forever. If that's what you want, it's fine. However, if you want to get into management or advance, you need to get noticed and build relationships so your potential can also be noticed.

WalterBright 6y ago
> This is called networking and I don't think it's going away anytime soon. It's never going away. It's human nature to trust and favor the people you know over those you don't. A friend of mine who was one of the top salesmen in his outfit would eat his lunch at his desk to save money. But he wasn't getting promoted, while others were. He eventually realized the "do lunch" socializing with coworkers was essential to success. The idea is to adapt to reality, it's far easier than to try to change human nature.
hrktb 6y ago
Networking doesn’t need to be personal though. > The first to go have no relationship with upper management This also means upper management had no clear oversight on how they were doing, what the value they brought in. If they did the same as you, being let go while you stay is mostly fair.If they were better at their job than you, I’d wish they find a job where they’ll meet better upper management. I know it feels overly idealistic or unrealistic to a lot of people who, as you describe, climbed the ladder by sticking with the big boys. Especially for those working in bigger companies where a single employee’s value is heavily diluted and political skills become huge assets. But companies who care more about your code than where you eat are also growingly common. It’s also so much more comfortable when you can feel that your work output actually matters.

WalterBright 6y ago

> This is called networking and I don't think it's going away anytime soon. It's never going away. It's human nature to trust and favor the people you know over those you don't. A friend of mine who was one of the top salesmen in his outfit would eat his lunch at his desk to save money. But he wasn't getting promoted, while others were. He eventually realized the "do lunch" socializing with coworkers was essential to success. The idea is to adapt to reality, it's far easier than to try to change human nature.

hrktb 6y ago

Networking doesn’t need to be personal though. > The first to go have no relationship with upper management This also means upper management had no clear oversight on how they were doing, what the value they brought in. If they did the same as you, being let go while you stay is mostly fair.If they were better at their job than you, I’d wish they find a job where they’ll meet better upper management. I know it feels overly idealistic or unrealistic to a lot of people who, as you describe, climbed the ladder by sticking with the big boys. Especially for those working in bigger companies where a single employee’s value is heavily diluted and political skills become huge assets. But companies who care more about your code than where you eat are also growingly common. It’s also so much more comfortable when you can feel that your work output actually matters.