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Generally it’s not 95% of women rejecting a given profile, but all women (or near enough to make no difference) rejecting mostly the same 95% of profiles and no

Generally it’s not 95% of women rejecting a given profile, but all women (or near enough to make no difference) rejecting mostly the same 95% of profiles and not rejecting the rest. I.e. boosting visibility probably brings proportionate benefits to the most desirable men, but little additional benefit to the ugly/short/older guy.

whatshisface 6y ago
Source? With 51.5% of American men presently married I have a hard time believing 95% of men are consistently rejected by every woman!
- chongli 6y ago
  It’s 95% of the men on dating apps, not 95% of all men. The men who get married presumably delete their profile. It’s not hard to see that all of the gold had already been panned out and there’s nothing left but mud (in the eyes of the women on those dating apps).
  - whatshisface 6y ago
    That sounds like how hiring managers describe the tech job market.
    - deleted 6y ago
      [deleted]
    - exolymph 6y ago
      Sellers' markets all have this dynamic. Edit: wtf @ stripping emoji HN
- Izkata 6y ago
  It's probably a misremembering of actual findings: At least on OKCupid, women rate 80% of men as below-average attractiveness, while men rate women at right about 50% as below-average and 50% as above-average [0]. OKCupid has since deleted the post with their findings [1], but references to it still exist all over, as does an archived copy [2]. [0] https://techcrunch.com/2009/11/18/okcupid-inbox-attractive/ https://techcrunch.com/2009/11/18/okcupid-inbox-attractive/ [1] https://theblog.okcupid.com/your-looks-and-your-inbox-8715c0f1561e https://theblog.okcupid.com/your-looks-and-your-inbox-8715c0... [2] http://web.archive.org/web/20100324074028/http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/2009/11/17/your-looks-and-online-dating/ http://web.archive.org/web/20100324074028/http://blog.okcupi...
  - globular-toast 6y ago
    It sucks that they deleted it. It's so hard to know the truth in this area because the truth offends people.
  - tapland 6y ago
    Their blog was a goldmine but decommissioned when they were bought by match.com
  - dorgo 6y ago
    Maybe men just answer the question more literal and find the real average (50%). Women understand the question more figuratively. Below average is what they don't like and they don't like 80% of men. Why even ask for above/below average ratings? What people like/don'tlike is more interesting.
    - closeparen 6y ago
      Maybe he most attractive men in the population aren't on dating apps.

whatshisface 6y ago

Source? With 51.5% of American men presently married I have a hard time believing 95% of men are consistently rejected by every woman!

chongli 6y ago
It’s 95% of the men on dating apps, not 95% of all men. The men who get married presumably delete their profile. It’s not hard to see that all of the gold had already been panned out and there’s nothing left but mud (in the eyes of the women on those dating apps).
- whatshisface 6y ago
  That sounds like how hiring managers describe the tech job market.
  - deleted 6y ago
    [deleted]
  - exolymph 6y ago
    Sellers' markets all have this dynamic. Edit: wtf @ stripping emoji HN
Izkata 6y ago
It's probably a misremembering of actual findings: At least on OKCupid, women rate 80% of men as below-average attractiveness, while men rate women at right about 50% as below-average and 50% as above-average [0]. OKCupid has since deleted the post with their findings [1], but references to it still exist all over, as does an archived copy [2]. [0] https://techcrunch.com/2009/11/18/okcupid-inbox-attractive/ https://techcrunch.com/2009/11/18/okcupid-inbox-attractive/ [1] https://theblog.okcupid.com/your-looks-and-your-inbox-8715c0f1561e https://theblog.okcupid.com/your-looks-and-your-inbox-8715c0... [2] http://web.archive.org/web/20100324074028/http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/2009/11/17/your-looks-and-online-dating/ http://web.archive.org/web/20100324074028/http://blog.okcupi...
- globular-toast 6y ago
  It sucks that they deleted it. It's so hard to know the truth in this area because the truth offends people.
- tapland 6y ago
  Their blog was a goldmine but decommissioned when they were bought by match.com
- dorgo 6y ago
  Maybe men just answer the question more literal and find the real average (50%). Women understand the question more figuratively. Below average is what they don't like and they don't like 80% of men. Why even ask for above/below average ratings? What people like/don'tlike is more interesting.
  - closeparen 6y ago
    Maybe he most attractive men in the population aren't on dating apps.