Also, I say that something is annoying to me, and you say "No it isn't." How can you deny that something is annoying to me? Ignoring what a user actually want

Also, I say that something is annoying to me, and you say "No it isn't." How can you deny that something is annoying to me? Ignoring what a user actually wants because it's not what you think they should want is the classic hacker UI design failing.