I think that's missing the point of how wrong it can be. That quote frames it as a moral issue. Different ways of acting in different contexts is not a moral

I think that's missing the point of how wrong it can be. That quote frames it as a moral issue. Different ways of acting in different contexts is not a moral issue unless you're deliberately going out of your way to hide something you don't want others to learn about you because you know it's immoral (or whatever). Most differences of behaviour in most contexts is not an issue of morality, whether or not other subjects in said contexts learn about those differences.