You're right, in that there is "no clear answer because of how varied people's expectations and reactions are." So what's the point in trying to gauge this? Ei

You're right, in that there is "no clear answer because of how varied people's expectations and reactions are." So what's the point in trying to gauge this? Either you'll find people who accept it or they won't. Seems like you'd be adding further stress to an already stressful situation by agonizing over this.