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I became a young father with 19, after way too much party starting from 15. So naturally I was concerned that my son would behave like me at that age. Or even j
by franze 7y ago
I became a young father with 19, after way too much party starting from 15. So naturally I was concerned that my son would behave like me at that age. Or even just 50%.
So I was kinda dissapaointed how well behaved he is now with 22. Mostly interested in E-Sports, Tinder and his CRM job.
Said that, becoming a father at 19 was a great career move. Got a job making websites in the dot-com area as I needed money and was very motivated.
So when the first education programms in Europe started ad websites, webprogramming.I had already 7 years experience. There is value in a non standard CV.
- mettamage 7y agoI think there are two factors for this in my case: - My environment wasn't batshit crazy, my parents environment was. In part because of their class, in another part because of the time. - They gave me advice that they couldn't get, like "don't smoke, don't do drugs, alcohol is bad for you in the long run, etc." Back then people simply didn't know, or didn't know well enough. I'm sure I'd turn out like them if I'd have lived in their circumstances. The world is simply becoming a better place, and in part it's because around 1945 it was an awefully shitty one to such an extent that the world was still reeling from it in the seventies. I daresay that it takes 2 generations to smooth the sharpest of edges. Disclaimer: armchair historian here.
- legionof7 7y agoWow big props to you though. I'm 19 right now, if I had a kid now, I'd have no idea what to do. Would probs turn out very badly.
- jl2718 7y agoI wish I had done it that way, although I definitely had the wrong partner at the time. I’m older now. There’s never a good time. There’s never a perfect partner. Set priorities and standards early at a minimum acceptable level and take the first match. Optimization will fail you every time. My biggest regrets are all from rejecting ‘good enough’.
- AndrewKemendo 7y agoThe older I get the more I'm convinced that having kids young is the right decision. I had my first daughter when I was 24 and now that I'm entering my prime earning years I don't have to worry about child care or being around 24/7 the same way I did when my kids were babies. I also have less "free time" now than when I was in college and I had way less than most college kids. It sounds counterintutive in this day and age but I think having kids at the tail end of high school or early college might be the best way to do it.
- asdff 7y agoI'm in my 20s and I'm not sure how I would be able to afford shelter, food, and daycare at the same time this early in my life.
- restalis 7y ago"I'm entering my prime earning years I don't have to worry about child care or being around 24/7 the same way I did when my kids were babies. I also have less «free time» now than when I was in college" Although not clear how much of that free time "less" means, I wish to point out that if you're a male (as I'd guess from your nickname), your contribution to the education of your descendants becomes the most useful after kid's childhood. Progressing as teenagers, they need less and less love and start needing more and more guidance and advice. That's the period where maternal inherent love and affection progressively looses its value. As time goes, when facing problems, the teenager would rather receive insight (which is something expected to be had from a father) instead of consolation. That may be your most needed paternal contribution of the entire offspring upbringing.
- AndrewKemendo 7y agoWell by free I mean basically out to see shows and go the bar and hang around watching movies etc.