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It really isn’t the same mindset as intolerance. Why would it remove agency? Do you dislike children? It’s about setting a boundary where it is most productive
by friendlybus 6y ago
It really isn’t the same mindset as intolerance. Why would it remove agency? Do you dislike children?
It’s about setting a boundary where it is most productive, children who are not socialised by the age of four hit problems in later life. Parents and kids who go to war help no one.
- danbolt 6y agoI think it comes from that the rule is titled "Do not let your children do anything that...". The language states to restrict the child's agency if you disagree with it. I was fortunate enough to grow up with good parents, but there were times where they were misguided and myself disobeying them helped us both in the long run.
- friendlybus 6y agoLanguage policing one line without the backing context is missing the point. Those times you disobeyed were also met with decades of limiting your agency. Not letting you cover yourself in peanut butter or fight with other kids, or mistreat pets, or spend infinite money. Jp sees resentment and pride as the ultimate source for being a rapscallion or monster, putting responsibility on the parent to keep their child in the ‘liked’ category is a very elegant way to keep a kid from destroying your house but also make a parent confront/channel any resentment or excessive pride into productive directions.