The obvious softball answers are to talk to professionals (psychs, therapists, etc.), and possible to watch some videos on youtube/udemy/lynda/etc. about commun

The obvious softball answers are to talk to professionals (psychs, therapists, etc.), and possible to watch some videos on youtube/udemy/lynda/etc. about communication skills and interactions. I've used them before, and they're useful -- even if just reminders of common-sense stuff. In the broader sense, there is no way to get good at something without doing it. My old boss used to use the "rock tumbler" analogy, in that a rock tumbler makes rocks smooth by rubbing them against each other a lot. If you want to be a smooth operator in a social sense, then you need to be around people and "rubbing up against them" in a social sense quite a bit. Most of the truly slick, very social people I know interact with others constantly, and have done so in many contexts since they were young. Older manager types have tact and grace because there were years when they didn't...