I'm in a similar position at a growing startup. Condescending PR comments, poor leadership in a sense where 'you should x' because another developer likes it th

I'm in a similar position at a growing startup. Condescending PR comments, poor leadership in a sense where 'you should x' because another developer likes it that way even though 'way x' is not researched. I just laugh because in reality its not a big deal and its just software. We get paid a decent amount of money to transform business requirements into reusable, testable code. Not take ourselves seriously and demean our colleagues. I try to be extra nice and supportive of everyone in almost a tongue-in-cheek way because I have life outside of programming that is pretty sweet and don't link my identity to the quality of my code (or what others think of it). My advice would be to grow thicker skin and not take things too personally. With that, don't take your colleagues so literally either. No one is as 'smart' or 'dumb' as they appear.