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> I have a permanent & total obligation to my kids' well being Such attitude makes it significantly less likely to have kids in the first place: why would a po

> I have a permanent & total obligation to my kids' well being Such attitude makes it significantly less likely to have kids in the first place: why would a potential parent want to get in debt? If we want to decrease population of humans, then spreading "parents owe to their kids" attitude is one of the ways to accomplish that.

WarOnPrivacy 6y ago
> Such attitude makes it significantly less likely to have kids in the first place: why would a potential parent want to get in debt? That might depend on how much value they place on their own life and upbringing. >If we want to decrease population of humans, then spreading "parents owe to their kids" attitude is one of the ways to accomplish that. Some things are what they are. This is the reality that's left when the harmful & unproductive assumptions are stripped away. I believe you are right that some less courageous folks will be discouraged when faced with this. That's okay too. Folks who opt out of parenthood shouldn't be thought less of.
orestarod 6y ago
If anything, people make kids to extract immense satisfaction out of it. But to think people will not have kids because of the "debt" philosophy is unrealistic. The truth is, most people would not even have sex at all, were it not for the massive instinctive drive. It's that much of a hassle to find and hold a partner, even more so have kids, and that's not even taking your relationship with your kids into account. If one is daunted from having kids, their train of thought will not even reach the debt part.
- dennisgorelik 6y ago
  Most people are at "lukewarm" level with their desire to have kids. If you add the idea of "getting into debt to your children" to the mix -- it tilts the balance to "let's postpone having kids until later" (that "later", usually, does not arrive).

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> I have a permanent & total obligation to my kids' well being Such attitude makes it significantly less likely to have kids in the first place: why would a po

by dennisgorelik 6y ago

WarOnPrivacy 6y ago
> Such attitude makes it significantly less likely to have kids in the first place: why would a potential parent want to get in debt? That might depend on how much value they place on their own life and upbringing. >If we want to decrease population of humans, then spreading "parents owe to their kids" attitude is one of the ways to accomplish that. Some things are what they are. This is the reality that's left when the harmful & unproductive assumptions are stripped away. I believe you are right that some less courageous folks will be discouraged when faced with this. That's okay too. Folks who opt out of parenthood shouldn't be thought less of.
orestarod 6y ago
If anything, people make kids to extract immense satisfaction out of it. But to think people will not have kids because of the "debt" philosophy is unrealistic. The truth is, most people would not even have sex at all, were it not for the massive instinctive drive. It's that much of a hassle to find and hold a partner, even more so have kids, and that's not even taking your relationship with your kids into account. If one is daunted from having kids, their train of thought will not even reach the debt part.
- dennisgorelik 6y ago
  Most people are at "lukewarm" level with their desire to have kids. If you add the idea of "getting into debt to your children" to the mix -- it tilts the balance to "let's postpone having kids until later" (that "later", usually, does not arrive).