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Maybe people are just making conversation and you shouldn't put so much stock in others sharing their opinions?

• darkerside 7y ago
  To expand, I often find that, if I feel strongly about a piece of feedback, it's because a part of me agrees with it. It says more about me than it does the other person.
  • kick 7y ago
    Going from "People being critical of your wife and not you for the same actions is just conversation!" to trying to guilt a guy for...pointing out that his wife experiences sexism...is pretty strange.
    • darkerside 7y ago
      I'm not trying to "guilt" anybody. Please don't spin my words. My two points are related. I recall hearing comments like that when my spouse and I had one infant child, and I remember taking them more personally, because it's easy as a new parent to feel like you should be doing more. Now if I hear someone comment on something I'm doing as a parent, it's just conversation, and I think the primary difference was my confidence in my own parenting ability.
• bcrosby95 7y ago
  I've never hard of people making conversation by telling them how they're doing things wrong, except when it comes to raising kids. How often do you hear stuff like this from random strangers: It's too cold for shorts. You're pushing that shopping cart wrong. You need to wash your car. That's a lot of ice cream in your shopping cart, maybe you should try eating something else.
  • WarOnPrivacy 7y ago
    >How often do you hear stuff like this from random strangers? Regularly - when the critic feels the object of their derision is out of earshot. Parents presume what feedback they get and they're usually right.