Including the death and/or injuries of loved ones? i.e. you were driving, got T-boned, now your sister can't walk? I know people that's happened to, and they t

Including the death and/or injuries of loved ones? i.e. you were driving, got T-boned, now your sister can't walk? I know people that's happened to, and they tend to "own it," and I'm not sure that's healthy,