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It definitely runs up against social taboos to speak so frankly of the departed, but I find it refreshing personally. I can’t speak for anyone but myself, but
by glaslong 7y ago
It definitely runs up against social taboos to speak so frankly of the departed, but I find it refreshing personally. I can’t speak for anyone but myself, but were I to die tomorrow I would actually prefer that the whole of my life is remembered:
- Accomplishments recognized, good and bad.
- Loved ones given space to grieve.
- And anyone I may have hurt allowed their feelings of relief.
Our legacy is what we leave behind, not just net change, or the parts we wish it to be.
- throw7 7y agoIt's just poor taste to talk smack about a dead guy. Her "eulogy" came off as a kind of personal grievance even, which just made it worse... she should really know better being in a supervisory/executive level.
- glaslong 7y agoI didn’t read it as smack talk. Though I agree most will probably see it that way, so it is poor taste by definition. I never knew the man, but personally I feel like I have a greater appreciation for who he was than if the In Memoriam had only mentioned positive contributions. It makes him feel more real and human to me. It‘s certainly bad form for someone in leadership, but in the same way that I appreciate leaders who break from PR spin to acknowledge and explain the nuance, I also appreciate a more balanced remembrance.