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I've been out of money and desperate at various times. It sucks. But if you point the blame only outwards, you're very likely to remain broke and desperate. Ow
by lionhearted 16y ago
I've been out of money and desperate at various times. It sucks. But if you point the blame only outwards, you're very likely to remain broke and desperate.
Own everything. Take all responsibility for everything that happens to you, even if it wasn't your fault. This leads to some instant satisfaction in terms of feeling more in control of your life. And long term, you do a hell of a lot better.
I try to own everything, even if it wasn't my fault. Especially if it wasn't my fault.
- jarin 16y agoExactly, the moment when you realize that 99% of bad things that happen to you or success you're NOT getting are directly or indirectly the result of you putting yourself in that situation is the moment you become free.
- Psyonic 16y agoIncluding the death and/or injuries of loved ones? i.e. you were driving, got T-boned, now your sister can't walk? I know people that's happened to, and they tend to "own it," and I'm not sure that's healthy,
- z0r 16y agoBlame the poor for being poor?
- momotomo 16y agoHave you ever read up on ILOC and ELOC? I'm not sure if it's just pop psych but I found it a good example to explain to people the importance of owning your life and outcomes. Basically people with a high internal locus of control drive change and own the outcomes (good or bad). People with an external locus of control accept change and blame external factors for the outcomes. Distinct difference in the happiness / satisfaction between the groups, if I recall correctly.
- Psyonic 16y agoApparently you're choosing not to answer me - which is fine - but just know that I wasn't trolling. I was honestly curious how far you take that attitude.