Forming a mass consensus on what reasonable exemptions to the laws should be is exactly how the lawmaking process in a democracy should work... What I hear you

Forming a mass consensus on what reasonable exemptions to the laws should be is exactly how the lawmaking process in a democracy should work... What I hear you saying is that we don't live in a functional democracy. I don't think, however, that individuals or cities selectively following laws is going to get us any closer to a functioning democracy.