Just to clarify, asking how are you feeling isn't NVC. Getting to the specifics of a contentious issue, and then asking how you feel about them is. Also, what

Just to clarify, asking how are you feeling isn't NVC. Getting to the specifics of a contentious issue, and then asking how you feel about them is. Also, what you say about vulnerability being incidental to connection contradicts a lot of widely-accepted social science research.