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>You can say “I know this is a lot to take in, but you will get through this.” >Do not tell them they will be fine. In general, a very good article, but these
by Klonoar 7y ago
>You can say “I know this is a lot to take in, but you will get through this.”
>Do not tell them they will be fine.
In general, a very good article, but these two lines really seem contradictory. It might intend to mean something else, but in practice it's pretty much doing what is outlined as a "do-not-do-this".
Edit: typos.
- davidu 7y agoI know. I edited that a few times. Didn’t quite get it right. Subtle nuance to “you will get through this” and “you will be fine” I guess. Not perfect.
- stickfigure 7y agoI hear what you're saying, but I think the difference is pretty important. you will get through this acknowledges that a significant hardship is being imposed on them. you will be fine trivializes the hardship; the subtext is "this is no big deal, you worry too much".
- Klonoar 7y agoThe point I'm making is that you might see that distinction, but the person hearing those words in that moment will not. It's a moment in life where you just keep your mouth shut.