I upvoted you because I think you are making a partially valid point. a woman attempted to physically restrain me from leaving her apartment once after I turned

I upvoted you because I think you are making a partially valid point. a woman attempted to physically restrain me from leaving her apartment once after I turned her down. in the moment, I found it more pathetic than scary. it wasn't until the next day that I thought about how differently I would view that situation if the genders were reversed (or how badly it might have gone for me if I actually had to fight her in her own home). the threat of physical violence from partners is probably not as serious for most men as it is for most women, but I think it is also wrong to casually dismiss men who don't realize in the moment that they are being abused. not being able to immediately categorize abuse doesn't necessarily mean the harm isn't done.