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You need to get the hell out of there. It can't be good for your mental health

Zenst 7y ago
Tried, even have psychiatric report stating as much and yet those who are supposed to help have failed me. Tried everything and nothing. But it's not just me, I have some good neibours who are less able to defend themselves and even if I moved, somebod else would suffer, let alone my good neibours and if I move, they would get worse downstairs. Only way is to see justice done and then move, though believe me I've tried, been messed around, and I'd articulate the horrors and failings but only so much can empart at a time as it causes me great stress reliving it. I'm already a lost cause, I just need to make sure others don't suffer, that's the only thing that keeps me alive.
- mnky9800n 7y ago
  Dude just move.
  - Zenst 7y ago
    I can't, tried believe me, sorry would expand upon the manitia but it just gets too much and now a shaking wreck and have to lay down as I have hypertension and sorry. I'll try and be back soon to reply and expand but it's just so painful and it's killing me. I'm sorry.
    - saiya-jin 7y ago
      So let's sum it up - its killing you, but you don't want to/can't leave because its killing others too. At the end, you will help nobody, the least yourself, and everybody will just suffer. Try pure logic on this problem, which doesn't seem like your current approach. Pure logic with result being improvement of your wellbeing, so you can help others. If you simply can't get those people out, then stop dreaming about getting them out, fruitlessly; solution is in some other action. If your country is in proper lockdown/quarantine, suck it up and focus on something positive till things ease a bit. I know, easy to say, but working solutions aren't magically easy.
      - enraged_camel 7y ago
        “Pure logic”? Is this a joke?
        saiya-jin 7y ago
        OK I suggested an actionable approach for a properly desperate person, what kind of advice do you have for him apart from downvoting me?
      - Zenst 7y ago
        I've tried, please read other reply for details. I've focused on positive things but hard to escape reality when you have noisy neibours who live a vampire lifestyle and a flat with the acoustics that I can hear a lightswitch downstairs turned on or off, let alone a raving crackhead. I set up a audio surveillance system with contact mics I built, though took year to afford the parts and then not ideal, but budget so tight I have to buy reduced food items to scrape by. Yet even with that, and case of playing blatant issues to housing and police - they do nothing, hence only way I will get the gravatas this needed is to go public and for that I need help as I'm unable to do this without breaking down and reliving all the bad moments - bad side effect of a good memory and if anything, makes it worse. But focusing only works so far - don't change anything and with everything else health wise, I don't have many good days and when I do, only able to do short bursts before fatigue kicks in or nerve damage pain, let alone the PTSD which can be triggered so easily that i'm totally unable to move forward and all attempts to do that have sadly been detrimental that they have only compounded the issue further.
  - ragona 7y ago
    That's not possible for many people. Moving is expensive.
  - retrac 7y ago
    The parent commenter doesn't say it, but it seems strongly implied that they live in public housing. In most jurisdictions, residents don't have the option of moving to another unit without approval. In principle no one is stopping them from moving into market-rate private housing, but unless they happen to have the income to cover the differential in housing costs, it's not actually an option.
    - Zenst 7y ago
      That is so, was working, company sent me other side of the world, messed up expenses and cruz was they failed to pay me and my rent and everything bounced whilst I was stuck in another TZ, boss epicly shafted me and in short, had breakdown and lost everything. Options to move are swap which entails swapping with somebody else who wants to move and the whole process fraught with hassel and could end up swapping with somebody doing same thing. Local council have an unofficial policey of allocating some flats to certaint types and with that, almost case of each social housing block has a designated junkie. It's a liberal council and has been for decades and well, yeah. Housing association utterly terrible and if you look up Metropolitian Housing Association you will see that this is a common issue with many residents of their and all they care about is...well, if you look at their twitter feed you will see what they are like, google review has them at 1* and many instances of comparable people in same situations. Council, utter joke and don't get me started on how bad they are in this situation. Support useless and anybody who has been good has been powerless to help and those who can help been beyond useless, again it is a joke. I have some serious health issues as well and the crux is, I'm unable to progress anything forward and those who were supposed to help, been beyond useless and again, trust me, it's bad. I wished I could articulate everything in detail so people would grasp how bad it is and all that I have tried, but it would be a inch long book and take me so long to write it, well, I'm not going to live that long anyhow. AS said, trying to deal with this kicks of PTSD from all past experiences and in short, I need help and never gotten the support I needed, plenty of lip service and the like and false promises and yet, here I still am and nothing changed. Work wise, I burned out so many times over the decades, in many situations had my good nature abused and things like burning 80+ hours a week for no overtime only to be shafted and the like very common.
- jacobush 7y ago
  No, just get out if you can. Put every bit of energy you have left to that goal.
  - Zenst 7y ago
    Tried failed, tried failed.....it's case of I try, I get failed and withdraw to recover, rinse repeat that life is just not worth it, along with health etc the only thing keeping me going is to see justice once and for all. Heck I even wrote to my government offering to be a human lab rat in the aid of finding solution to coronavirus, least that would be a honourable death, that desperate.

Tried, even have psychiatric report stating as much and yet those who are supposed to help have failed me. Tried everything and nothing. But it's not just me, I have some good neibours who are less able to defend themselves and even if I moved, somebod else would suffer, let alone my good neibours and if I move, they would get worse downstairs. Only way is to see justice done and then move, though believe me I've tried, been messed around, and I'd articulate the horrors and failings but only so much can empart at a time as it causes me great stress reliving it. I'm already a lost cause, I just need to make sure others don't suffer, that's the only thing that keeps me alive.

mnky9800n 7y ago
Dude just move.
- Zenst 7y ago
  I can't, tried believe me, sorry would expand upon the manitia but it just gets too much and now a shaking wreck and have to lay down as I have hypertension and sorry. I'll try and be back soon to reply and expand but it's just so painful and it's killing me. I'm sorry.
  - saiya-jin 7y ago
    So let's sum it up - its killing you, but you don't want to/can't leave because its killing others too. At the end, you will help nobody, the least yourself, and everybody will just suffer. Try pure logic on this problem, which doesn't seem like your current approach. Pure logic with result being improvement of your wellbeing, so you can help others. If you simply can't get those people out, then stop dreaming about getting them out, fruitlessly; solution is in some other action. If your country is in proper lockdown/quarantine, suck it up and focus on something positive till things ease a bit. I know, easy to say, but working solutions aren't magically easy.
    - enraged_camel 7y ago
      “Pure logic”? Is this a joke?
      - saiya-jin 7y ago
        OK I suggested an actionable approach for a properly desperate person, what kind of advice do you have for him apart from downvoting me?
    - Zenst 7y ago
      I've tried, please read other reply for details. I've focused on positive things but hard to escape reality when you have noisy neibours who live a vampire lifestyle and a flat with the acoustics that I can hear a lightswitch downstairs turned on or off, let alone a raving crackhead. I set up a audio surveillance system with contact mics I built, though took year to afford the parts and then not ideal, but budget so tight I have to buy reduced food items to scrape by. Yet even with that, and case of playing blatant issues to housing and police - they do nothing, hence only way I will get the gravatas this needed is to go public and for that I need help as I'm unable to do this without breaking down and reliving all the bad moments - bad side effect of a good memory and if anything, makes it worse. But focusing only works so far - don't change anything and with everything else health wise, I don't have many good days and when I do, only able to do short bursts before fatigue kicks in or nerve damage pain, let alone the PTSD which can be triggered so easily that i'm totally unable to move forward and all attempts to do that have sadly been detrimental that they have only compounded the issue further.
- ragona 7y ago
  That's not possible for many people. Moving is expensive.
- retrac 7y ago
  The parent commenter doesn't say it, but it seems strongly implied that they live in public housing. In most jurisdictions, residents don't have the option of moving to another unit without approval. In principle no one is stopping them from moving into market-rate private housing, but unless they happen to have the income to cover the differential in housing costs, it's not actually an option.
  - Zenst 7y ago
    That is so, was working, company sent me other side of the world, messed up expenses and cruz was they failed to pay me and my rent and everything bounced whilst I was stuck in another TZ, boss epicly shafted me and in short, had breakdown and lost everything. Options to move are swap which entails swapping with somebody else who wants to move and the whole process fraught with hassel and could end up swapping with somebody doing same thing. Local council have an unofficial policey of allocating some flats to certaint types and with that, almost case of each social housing block has a designated junkie. It's a liberal council and has been for decades and well, yeah. Housing association utterly terrible and if you look up Metropolitian Housing Association you will see that this is a common issue with many residents of their and all they care about is...well, if you look at their twitter feed you will see what they are like, google review has them at 1* and many instances of comparable people in same situations. Council, utter joke and don't get me started on how bad they are in this situation. Support useless and anybody who has been good has been powerless to help and those who can help been beyond useless, again it is a joke. I have some serious health issues as well and the crux is, I'm unable to progress anything forward and those who were supposed to help, been beyond useless and again, trust me, it's bad. I wished I could articulate everything in detail so people would grasp how bad it is and all that I have tried, but it would be a inch long book and take me so long to write it, well, I'm not going to live that long anyhow. AS said, trying to deal with this kicks of PTSD from all past experiences and in short, I need help and never gotten the support I needed, plenty of lip service and the like and false promises and yet, here I still am and nothing changed. Work wise, I burned out so many times over the decades, in many situations had my good nature abused and things like burning 80+ hours a week for no overtime only to be shafted and the like very common.
jacobush 7y ago
No, just get out if you can. Put every bit of energy you have left to that goal.
- Zenst 7y ago
  Tried failed, tried failed.....it's case of I try, I get failed and withdraw to recover, rinse repeat that life is just not worth it, along with health etc the only thing keeping me going is to see justice once and for all. Heck I even wrote to my government offering to be a human lab rat in the aid of finding solution to coronavirus, least that would be a honourable death, that desperate.