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That is a pretty flippant comparison. I’m the trustee of a regional women’s shelter; we run a small building of 8 apartments which we offer to women and childr
by JonAtkinson 7y ago
That is a pretty flippant comparison.
I’m the trustee of a regional women’s shelter; we run a small building of 8 apartments which we offer to women and children as short-medium term refuges at no cost.
The people who arrive with us are experiencing trauma past breaking point (often abuse is normalised and needs to be significantly escalated until someone is willing to take flight), with symptoms of PTSD, depression, and often significant physical injuries. Children absorb this abuse in a similar manner, without any means to process the trauma.
Organisations like our face an extremely uncertain future; while the need for what we do remains, and probably increases, many women are unable to move or scared to due to the government advice on travel. This is against the backdrop of being unable to procure supplies; we provide our residents with everything from food to nappies, all donated or bought from cash donations.
I appreciate that living with a difficult roommate is a testing circumstance. But domestic abuse is truly a different level of horror.
- buzzkillington 7y agoWhen do you think there will be shelters for the victims of domestic abuse from women? I had a a friend bullied to suicide by their mother but there was just no support for someone who wasn't physically abused by a man in the 00s.
- ceejayoz 7y agoIt's been a slow change, but it's changing. https://www.npr.org/2017/07/15/537381161/more-domestic-violence-shelters-for-men-opening https://www.npr.org/2017/07/15/537381161/more-domestic-viole...
- scott_s 7y agoThere are. The nonprofit my girlfriend works for works with all victims of domestic abuse. I imagine most such organizations do the same.
- JonAtkinson 7y agoThere are. Awareness is growing and all organisations which are serious will have a plan in place and facilities available. Should someone present at almost any shelter now their case will be assessed on whether violence occurred rather than gender. My organisation is in the UK, so I can’t speak for elsewhere. I’m sorry to hear about your friend, and for your loss. DV is truly horrible in all circumstances, and the effects ripple through many people.
- buzzkillington 7y ago>Should someone present at almost any shelter now their case will be assessed on whether violence occurred rather than gender. Domestic abuse does not begin and end with violence. My friend was never physically hurt, yet he was still tortured enough to kill himself.
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- ceejayoz 7y agoVerbal/emotional abuse is still a form of violence. https://www.thehotline.org/is-this-abuse/abuse-defined/ https://www.thehotline.org/is-this-abuse/abuse-defined/ > Domestic violence includes behaviors that physically harm, arouse fear, prevent a partner from doing what they wish or force them to behave in ways they do not want. It includes the use of physical and sexual violence, threats and intimidation, emotional abuse and economic deprivation.
- xenihn 7y agoDid the person you're replying to edit their post? If not, you should consider that lesbian relationships can be abusive.
- narag 7y agoBut domestic abuse is truly a different level of horror. Trust me, there are very tough situations that you haven't seen or you wouldn't say that. Fortunately domestic abuse has some legal status. But falling with a mentally deranged person in a shared condo is dangerous and more usual than you think.
- brenden2 7y agoWhat about people who aren't women or children? They don't deserve help? Have we collectively decided to just let them rot?