My grandma was basically a Russian subsistence farmer and died as one. She had three children and one of them learned German and met a German man in Poland and

My grandma was basically a Russian subsistence farmer and died as one. She had three children and one of them learned German and met a German man in Poland and eventually married him. That was my mother. However, the relationship became violent and abusive by the time I was 4. When my mother got a divorce she immediately left the city and moved to an different city that turned out to be extremely car dependent. The first thing she did was get a driver's license and a used Golf 3 for $2000. It was 15 year old at that time and pretty much nearing the end of it's life. She managed to bring up two children on unemployment benefits and seasonal work. Unfortunately one of the children has autism, back problems at a young age and major digestive problems and the other child was normal but got a worthless degree. Was all of that struggle worthless in the end? No. I'm the "cripple" but I personally am doing just fine as a developer and I am actually out-earning my other sibling.