I became a single parent when my daughter was 14 months old. I'll offer your child comes first no matter what and toddlers need constant attention. There's no g

I became a single parent when my daughter was 14 months old. I'll offer your child comes first no matter what and toddlers need constant attention. There's no getting around that. At that time I subcontracted work with a few small companies that relied heavily on the work I did. I had to explain to them there were laws against my putting her in daycare when she was ill. Being a kid she'd get fevers from all kinds of crud brought into the daycare by parents who'd dose their kids with tylenol before dropping them off at the daycare, but I refused to do that. This happened about once every 4-6 weeks. None of those companies offered to pay me more so I could afford a nanny to care for my daughter at home during work hours, but all complained they were severely affected when I didn't complete the work on their schedule and they all made a lot of money off my work, far more than enough to cover those costs. Such is life. I didn't feel it necessary for me to worry about them anymore than they worried about me and my daughter and our situation. I have no regrets about putting her first. In your case, whomever you're working for needs to adjust their expectations to the realities of your situation and you need to be at your best to keep up with just your one toddler. "As a software engineer and team lead I have both technical and administrative responsibilities." Caring for your children supersedes everything else, and by a long shot. Especially right now.