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I said the judgment is reasonable but reserve my judgment on the sentence. I’m saying people should drive safer. That’s all. A good portion of my reasoning com

I said the judgment is reasonable but reserve my judgment on the sentence. I’m saying people should drive safer. That’s all. A good portion of my reasoning comes from my daily dealings with my kids. This case bears many strong resemblances to arguments they come to me with. Edit to clarify: when my kids come to me with an argument because one was careless and hurt another, the defense is usually that they were acting as reasonably cautious as could be expected. My justification in grounding them (after getting the facts and eyewitness testimony) is that I would have acted more cautiously than they did given the circumstances, and would not have caused the same injury, so that their caution wasn’t really as cautious as should reasonably be expected.

saagarjha 7y ago
Do your children drive? I’m not sure what you mean by saying that these arguments bear a resemblance.
yodon 7y ago
If this judging happens as much as you imply here and in your other comments in this thread, you should probably look at the parenting dynamic you have created and look for ways to change it. It sounds like are encouraging your kids into a dysfunctional competition for your approval and by extension love. You should be teaching them to work out their own differences, not teaching them to appeal everything to you. The former is a great life skill, the later is not.
- sdegutis 7y ago
  We try to teach them to resolve problems on their own. But when one of them is negligent to the point of hurting another, then we have to administer justice. Usually writing a sentence a few dozen times to instill the idea for a need of being more careful. Sometimes a grounding, if our judgment is met with a stubborn defense claiming pure innocence despite the evidence, and belligerent accusations of us being unjust judges (ie. “contempt of court”).

saagarjha 7y ago

Do your children drive? I’m not sure what you mean by saying that these arguments bear a resemblance.

yodon 7y ago

If this judging happens as much as you imply here and in your other comments in this thread, you should probably look at the parenting dynamic you have created and look for ways to change it. It sounds like are encouraging your kids into a dysfunctional competition for your approval and by extension love. You should be teaching them to work out their own differences, not teaching them to appeal everything to you. The former is a great life skill, the later is not.

sdegutis 7y ago
We try to teach them to resolve problems on their own. But when one of them is negligent to the point of hurting another, then we have to administer justice. Usually writing a sentence a few dozen times to instill the idea for a need of being more careful. Sometimes a grounding, if our judgment is met with a stubborn defense claiming pure innocence despite the evidence, and belligerent accusations of us being unjust judges (ie. “contempt of court”).