I think one of the hardest things about working from home with the kids there is having to make the choice between parenting and working. Having done WFH with s

I think one of the hardest things about working from home with the kids there is having to make the choice between parenting and working. Having done WFH with small kids at least one day a week for years, you have to change your and your kids expectations about what is acceptable and about what your relationship means when you are working. You might need to do some "bad parenting"- allowing way more TV/electronics time than otherwise allowed, ignoring thing you might otherwise correct, and not engaging as the loving parent you want to be all the time. We've had to go this route in our household, and its been tough. Enlist your first grader in care as well- my 2 year old LOVES following her brother around, and my first grader loves responsibility (to a degree). See if you can get your first grader to keep your toddler out of your workspace for an hour or two a day. If you have the space, extensively childproof an area where they need less supervision. As for being a lead- one of my proudest accomplishments when I'm leading teams is to make them self-sufficient, and one of the greatest difficulties is letting go of work. At least in my world, the best teams have maximal authority and scope pushed to individuals. Can your team step up to do more on their own, especially the technical work? Possibly not, but I definitely wouldn't give up your lead position unless you find it necessary personally. These are.. interesting... times. There are no perfect answers, and all answers require trade off and sacrifice. I hope I helped though.